Young Daughter Calls Her “Fat,” But Mom Has Perfect Reply.

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When she was in college, Allison Kimmey was obsessed with having the perfect body. “I felt disconnected from the entire college experience,” she wrote in the caption of the picture below.

“I was in the beginning stages of my body dysmorphia, disordered eating and excessive working out,” said Allison. “I would spend the next 10 years fluctuating from a size 4 to 18, gaining and losing hundreds of pounds and navigating my way out of the destructive thoughts and behaviors.”


#tbt Circa 2007. My second year in college. I went away, far away, to college. From Florida up to Massachusetts to be near my boyfriend who was attending college in New York. It was scary. I was lonely. And for quite a while I felt completely disconnected from the entire college experience. There weren't many things I could control so I began to focus on obsessing about my body, I didn't realize at the time but I was in the beginning stages of my body dysmorphia, disordered eating and excessive working out. I was so insecure and I allowed my belief that I wasn't good enough to hold me back from SO MANY opportunities in my young adult life. I would spend the next 10 years fluctuating from a size 4 to 18, gaining and losing hundreds of pounds and navigating my way out of the destructive thoughts and behaviors. During an interview I was asked why I had chosen to begin my account: I began speaking about body diversity and self love just one year ago - to heal my inner 15 year old self! I struggled for so long to fit it and feel love, only to find at the age of 30 that it was within me all along if I had just allowed myself to feel it. I knew that I didn't want anyone else to waste another single second being at war with themselves and so I took to Instagram to attempt to free women with daily inspiration. If my posts have helped you at all in your journey, could you share with me, or just drop a 🙏🏻🙏🏻 in the comments! Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie ________ #bopo #bodypositive #bodyconfidence #bodylove #selflove #throwbackthursday
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One year ago, she started an Instagram account as a platform to promote “body diversity and self love.”

“I struggled for so long to fit in and feel love, only to find at the age of 30 that it was within me all along if I had just allowed myself to feel it.”
✋🏼STOP SCROLLING✋🏼Hey babes!! Up bright and early with a very important message that you NEED to hear! Sometimes I get all cozy and snuggled up in my little body positive and self love bubble. It's warm there, and there's rainbows and the best jams and only the most magical people. I have worked tirelessly to make this little bubble for myself. But sometimes I have to take a day trip to "real world" and get a little dose of what I call *this is why I do what you do* What I mean by that is: there's a lot of hate in this world...and people are ready to bring you down at any chance of finally feeling more worthy themselves. I see aggression in people but I see pain too. I'm not here to educate the unwilling or make excuses for the ignorant- but I am constantly reminded that I am here for you, beautiful soul, the one that doesn't have your impenetrable self love bubble built yet and can't see a way out of judgement and self depreciating thoughts. And there's something I need you to know: no matter how much you change- your circumstances, your body, your finances, your job, your relationship status - You are worthy of JOY, LOVE, OPPORTUNITY, and probably the most important and least received: RESPECT. NOW. NEXT MONTH. NEXT YEAR. THIS ENTIRE LIFETIME. IN ANOTHER LIFE. FOREVER. INFINITY. And on that same note, allowing others to shine in THEIR light will never dim what only YOU can offer to the world. So let's light it up! The whole dam world. With love, and kindness, and pure joy, and respect! And babe, if you want to come inside my self love bubble- there's an invitation waiting for you with the link in my profile! Isn't it time you started allowing yourself to feel worthy of these things? Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie _______ #justdoyoucrew #bopo #bodypos #bodypositive #selflove #transformationtuesday #confidence #youareworthy #embracethesquish #everybodyisbeautiful
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Now Allison is a self-help author/speaker and a mom, and she recently posted about an encounter with her children that’s quickly going viral.

Check out the story below:


My daughter called me fat today. She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat. I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat. Me: "what did you say about me?" Her: "I said you were fat, mama, im sorry" Me: "let's talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?" Her: "yes! I have some here on my tummy" Me: "that's right! So do I and so does your brother!" Her brother: "I don't have any fat, I'm the skinniest, I just have muscles" Me: "actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts." Her brother: " oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me" Me: "Yes, that's true. Some people have a lot, and others don't have very much. But that doesn't mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand? Both: "yes, mama" Me: "so can you repeat what I said" Them: "yes! I shouldn't say someone is fat because you can't be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it's okay to have different fat" Me: "exactly right!" Them: "can we go back to the pool now?" Me: no 🤣🤣 __________________ Each moment these topics come up i have to choose how I'm going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable. Since we don't call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest. Give me a 🙌🏻 if this resonated w u! Just do you! Xoxo Allie
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My daughter called me fat today.
She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat.
I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat.
Me: “what did you say about me?”
Her: “I said you were fat, mama, im sorry”
Me: “let’s talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?”
Her: “yes! I have some here on my tummy”
Me: “that’s right! So do I and so does your brother!”
Her brother: “I don’t have any fat, I’m the skinniest, I just have muscles”
Me: “actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts.”
Her brother: ” oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me”
Me: “Yes, that’s true. Some people have a lot, and others don’t have very much. But that doesn’t mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand?
Both: “yes, mama”
Me: “so can you repeat what I said”
Them: “yes! I shouldn’t say someone is fat because you can’t be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it’s okay to have different fat”
Me: “exactly right!”
Them: “can we go back to the pool now?”
Me: no

Hey babes!! It would be an understatement to say that I am overwhelmed by the level of amazing support @full_of_freckles_illustrations and I received yesterday with the announcement of our collaboration on the first children's publication in a series of body confidence books! I'm over the moon excited to share every step of this journey with you all! SO MANY of you wanted to know how to pre-order or how to get involved...I added a link in my profile where you can find a button that says "pre-order the children's book" and you can sign up to be the first notified when the book is officially open for pre-order! Not one comment went unnoticed yesterday and I tried to reply to each and ever one of your heartfelt encouraging messages! I want to highlight once more the talent of Sanne as she literally is INCREDIBLE!! This is the original image that inspired @full_of_freckles_illustrations to create the characters! Do you see the resemblance?! Thank you again, babes! Just do you! Xoxo Allie
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Each moment these topics come up, I have to choose how I’m going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical, and undesirable.





Since we don’t call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else.

Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds.

It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest.

Just do you!
Xoxo
Allie

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