I know you love her.
If
you didn’t, you wouldn’t be with her. But since you’re only a human being with
variable emotions, you might be inclined to love her in all the wrong ways.
A
healthy, happy relationship can transform into a destructive one if you treat
her less than how she deserves to be treated.
Nonetheless,
I hope you try to love her right. I hope you cast every ray of awareness upon
your love for her. I hope you know that awareness is what keeps a relationship
strong.
I
want you to remember how she looked when you first laid eyes on her. She was
everything you longed for. Be it her beauty, her wild nature, her sense of
humor or her independence, there’s something about her you haven’t found in
anyone else.
And
what floored you the most was her completeness.
If
you love her, keep her this way. Keep her beautiful, keep her wild, keep her
complete.
While
she’s the master of her own fate, I wish you understood that you play a major
role in her life. How you treat her determines how she views herself—you can
make her shine or make her feel lost. She’s a statue in your hands and she only
hopes to be held with vigilance.
If
you love her, don’t destroy her.
Know
that she was destroyed before and another destruction isn’t what she’s aiming
for. If she’s with you, know that she has stepped over her fear and
insecurities to be with you. She has stepped over her past and decided to give
love another chance. She has entrusted you with the health of this
relationship—and with her heart.
Don’t
let her down.
You
destroy her the moment you think you know her. She’s not a book you will
eventually finish. She’s something yet to be discovered—so live every day as if
you’re meeting her for the first time.
Be
present. Nothing destroys her more than your emotional absence. You can sit
with her all day long and not really be there, yet you can be so far away and
be completely present.
Stimulate her
thoughts, her emotions, her being. Dive into her soul like you’d dive into an
ocean.
Know
that you’ll wreck her if she ever felt you need her rather than want her.
You’ll destroy every inch of her if you only love her when loneliness creeps up
on you. Because she seeks your love in all moments, not just when your fears
and insecurities strike.
I
know that your own past sufferings may have destroyed you. But don’t love her
just so she can carry your emotional baggage with you. Don’t love her if you
only want her to fix you. Know that she will, with time, without you even
knowing.
Her
love and existence will heal every part of you. But if you are with her solely
to fill the emptiness inside you, she will know—and it will destroy her.
And
remember, she doesn’t want to be fixed either. Maybe she opened up to you and
told you about her painful past. Perhaps you know the exact number of pieces
she was turned into. But she didn’t tell you so you would fix her—she only told
you so you can know what she endured and how it made her who she is today.
She
wants you to acknowledge that your actions toward her—actions motivated by
love, understanding and patience—are what matter.
Don’t
treat her like a broken woman. She is complete with all her pieces, even though
they may still be scattered everywhere. Embrace them with her—just don’t add to
them.
Make her see why she went through destructive relationships in the past.
Make her realize that she went through the “worst” so she could appreciate the
“better” that you are.
If
you love her, love her with all her flaws and insecurities. She is as imperfect
as you are and she only hopes to share that imperfection with you. She wants to
undress her soul in front of you and be utterly herself.
She
wants to be the same way with you that she is in the mirror—crazy, wild and
free. If you’re not ready to accept her as she is, you will destroy her.
If
you love her, build her up because she will be doing the same for you. Know
that whatever effort you put in, she will be putting in double.
If
you show her the moon, she’ll show you the entire galaxy.
If
you take her to a well, she’ll introduce you to the ocean.
If
you treat her right, she’ll love you more.
If
you love her well, she’ll never forget you.
Source
: elephantjournal.com